If you are like most people, you would have experienced being in a conversation with with someone, and you get a sense that they aren't really paying attention to you... sometimes it's not obvious it's just a feeling and other times well it's clear they aren't really listening, you will notice their eyes looking around scanning the room, or they are checking their phone for messages and Facebook updates, or they randomly comment on something totally irrelevant to what you were saying... it's frustrating isn't it!
On the flip side, when feel you have been truly heard, how wonderful does it feel? It's like you have a deep connection with the person involved, you feel really satisfied.
One of our biggest challenges with dealing with other people is effective communication. Being able to share your thoughts and wishes effectively is a skill most people have: but you also have to be open to what others have to say. Did you know that the most important aspect of creating relationships with others - whoever that me be - begins with listening.
Like the example above, most people, possibly even you, confuse hearing with listening. This can lead to misunderstandings, arguments and frustration for both parties and if you are the one needing to be heard, you may even feel unimportant.
You can't control other peoples actions or how they listen to you... so lets all start to adopt some great listening techniques for ourselves (You will be amazed at how people will love talking to you when you are a great listener!)
So how do you become a great listener?
It's easier than you think, and it it's paramount to your progress in relationships and when doing business. If you don't learn to be a great listener you will continue to discount other peoples thoughts, they in turn will become emotionally distant (not a great thing in an intimate relationship) and they will no longer want to contribute to conversations or provide you with creative ideas (That hurts in a business situation!)
Here are some important tips!
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To your ongoing success!
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