If you are like most people, you would have experienced being in a conversation with with someone, and you get a sense that they aren't really paying attention to you... sometimes it's not obvious it's just a feeling and other times well it's clear they aren't really listening, you will notice their eyes looking around scanning the room, or they are checking their phone for messages and Facebook updates, or they randomly comment on something totally irrelevant to what you were saying... it's frustrating isn't it!
On the flip side, when feel you have been truly heard, how wonderful does it feel? It's like you have a deep connection with the person involved, you feel really satisfied.
One of our biggest challenges with dealing with other people is effective communication. Being able to share your thoughts and wishes effectively is a skill most people have: but you also have to be open to what others have to say. Did you know that the most important aspect of creating relationships with others - whoever that me be - begins with listening.
Like the example above, most people, possibly even you, confuse hearing with listening. This can lead to misunderstandings, arguments and frustration for both parties and if you are the one needing to be heard, you may even feel unimportant.
You can't control other peoples actions or how they listen to you... so lets all start to adopt some great listening techniques for ourselves (You will be amazed at how people will love talking to you when you are a great listener!)
So how do you become a great listener?
It's easier than you think, and it it's paramount to your progress in relationships and when doing business. If you don't learn to be a great listener you will continue to discount other peoples thoughts, they in turn will become emotionally distant (not a great thing in an intimate relationship) and they will no longer want to contribute to conversations or provide you with creative ideas (That hurts in a business situation!)
Here are some important tips!
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To your ongoing success!
As the end of the first month of 2014 is getting closer, I just had to share three very important words with you all before the year passes us by.
This week I received a personal note from my mentor Bob Proctor, where he shared these very same three words with me, I believe these words will strike a chord with you just as they did for me.
Here they are...
Better: Adjective - Greater in excellence or higher in quality
Quantum Leap: Noun - A sudden highly significant advance;
Freedom: Noun - The condition of being free of restraints. Doing what YOU want, when YOU want, with whom YOU want.
These three words can sum up a lot for all of us. When Bob mentioned them to me I wondered where he was going with it, and you're possibly doing the same right now. Well Bob made me think... and I hope I can make you think too.
2014 is already here! So stop and take a few moments to think about your life as it is right now, your dreams, your goals, your health and even your happiness. Are you like me, would you like to do better? Would you like to take a quantum leap? Would you like more freedom? I know I do and I have already put things in place to ensure it happens for me!
I have a lot of things that I am doing to ensure 2014 is much better to any preceding years, and I'd like to share with you just a few of the things I am doing to ensure I get from where I am now, to where I want to be.
Hopefully one or two, or even all of these ideas will encourage you to take action in your own life and help you to be better, take a quantum leap and gain freedom!
Here's the top 4 things I'm doing...
If you're feeling stuck and not sure how to set your very own 'scary goal', or you feel blocks, procrastination, a lack of funds, or perhaps you don't know where to start. You could easily get help, find a coach, a mentor, enroll in a short course, buy a book or find new friends!
Whatever it is, just do something to move yourself forward, take the first step!
Contact us if you are ready to make 2014 your BEST year yet. Let us at Love Health Wealth Self help you in some wonderful and exciting ways such as:
Whatever you do to make 2014 a better year for yourself, be sure to give yourself permission to take a quantum leap! (you won't regret it, I know I haven't!)
Here's to your success and achieving your very own 'scary goal'!
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