We all have broken dreams of some sort, the job interview that didn't work out, the dream career that remained a dream, the relationship that went pear-shaped, the investment that nose dived, the dream of a family that didn't eventuate... yes these have all happened to me in the last 15 years or so and in some instances one or more of them have happened multiple times and no doubt you have a broken dream of your own.
The greatest lesson I learned when I began my journey of self healing was to let all those broken dreams go, dwelling on the past would not heal or mend the broken dreams. I had to move forward, create new dreams and trust that life would work itself out. I had to learn to forgive the cheating partners, forgive the shonky investment adviser and most importantly I had to learn to forgive myself.
Author Raymond Holliwell believes the reason the famous Shakespeare is the leading dramatist of the world lies in his understanding that our power to overcome things is within us, unlike the the great Greek dramatists who always saw the causes in an external fate or destiny, Shakespeare saw something within man as the cause of his failure or success. “The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves that we are the underlings.”
At first forgiveness was not easy to do, however with the help of my coach (also an Tapping guru), a few great books and some great mentors I learned that I had given my power away to circumstances outside of myself and blamed these outside influences for my broken dreams.
Finally I realised, hey, I am in control here, the power lies within me! I chose to behave a certain way in a job interview, I chose not to do well enough in school which lead to not having my dream job as an interior designer, I chose to date the men who cheated on me, I chose to invest my savings, I chose to hold on to limiting beliefs and outdated values that didn't serve me and I had also chosen not to forgive.
I was holding on to my broken dreams and a myriad of emotions, not letting go to allow myself to heal. After some time I made the best decision of my life, I chose to step into my personal power, I no longer wanted the past holding me back, I was ready to step forward into an amazing new version of myself. I chose to release the trapped emotions, to forgive and let it go... (all of it, no ifs no buts, regardless of the hurt and pain) I still have the memories of those events , those broken dreams, but I am free from all the emotional baggage that used to well up inside me. To shift your perception is no easy thing when something horrible has been placed in your road by someone that you may trust and they did something that isn't very nice or is in conflict with your own beliefs and values. To forgive and let go takes a big person.
By holding on to things, including broken dreams, I was putting myself in a
low vibration and all kinds of things started to happen. Over the years I have noticed that when I moved into a low vibration, my body started to break down, with headaches, colds, flu, stiffness and even weight gain.
Sometimes we get so uptight, we get stressed, we resent events and people so much that things go wrong. But when we live in harmony, when we forgive, let go we flow freely and we vibrate at a much higher frequency.
So if someone's done something to you that is mean, thoughtless or just down right nasty, rather than reacting, hating and resenting the person, forgive them. Abandon the hurt, let it go completely, just let it go, do not spend any time thinking about it, instead start to think about your own goals and the good that you can do and what you can give. This puts you in a high vibration.
If you choose the opposite, that is you decide to put up a fight and resent the person and you really can't stand them. You are building hate and it's growing inside of you. What kind of a vibration are you in now? A much lower vibration that welcomes in doubt and sickness. The thing is, it's not because of what the other person did to you, It's how you're reacting to what they did to you.
Put simply we all need to learn to let go and forgive. We've got to learn to forgive ourselves. If you've done something wrong in the past, you (like me) probably did the only thing you could do with the consciousness you had. Let it go. Forgive yourself. If someone else has done something wrong, don't resent them. Let it go. Forgive them. By doing this you're putting beautiful energy in your mind and you're free to think great thoughts and you can keep on moving in the right direction.
Forgiveness is not something that benefits the other person. Forgiveness benefits you. You're the recipient of the good when you forgive.
As children bring their broken toys
With tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God
Because He was my Friend.
But instead of leaving Him
In peace to work alone,
I hung around and tried to help
With ways that were my own.
At last, I snatched them back and cried,
"How can You be so slow?"
"My child," he said "what could I do?
You never let them go."
Author Unknown - from Your Sacred Self by Wayne Dyer
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