Pleasure and funerals are two words we don't often see in the one sentence. A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of attending two separate funerals, one was of a friend of the family, a wonderful man who had died at 89, the other friend was a devoted mother who had died at 51.
So why were their funerals a pleasure?
Both of them had well over 300 people attend their services, one had the services was even live streamed to different locations too... the amount of people who attended wasn't the part that made them pleasurable, the amount of people was a testament to what made it a pleasure to attend.
Listening to their eulogy's it really hit home that both of these people had made their life Count. And they both had done it in their own unique way... one had an additional 13,870 days of being human than the other, yet they had both made a remarkable difference.
Testimonial after testimonial told stories of how they had touched the lives of others, how their life had not been about themselves... it had whole heatedly been about helping others.
One had spent his whole life living his purpose helping others to see the light within themselves, committed to what he believed in and dedicated to his calling. He loved what he did so much that he was still doing it in the hospital days before he died.
The other had spent her life caring and loving others, she too had found her calling and was living on purpose, a true angel here on earth, never making any of her interactions about herself, they were always about you, the person she was with. Whether it be sending a note, making you a meal, buying you something you couldn't afford or extending a welcoming hug when you were new to the country. She new her purpose and lived it each day.
None of us knows when we will cease existing as a human, what we do know is that we can make each day count.
Make your life more about the people in it than the things you can accumulate, follow your passion, find your calling and live your purpose, there are people out their counting on you to make your life count!
I recently facilitated a personal development workshop for a group of highly passionate sustainability advocates at the Australian Campuses Towards Sustainability Annual Conference.
Like all of my workshops I covered things such as our belief systems how the mind works and how to successfully move through change. I find these topics to be extremely powerful as they help people to understand more about who they are at a deeper level. It gives me great joy when people find out just how powerful they are and how the results they currently experience in their world can be changed.
During all of my workshops I cover a very powerful concept that has been around since the 1930s, a concept that was first created by Dr Thurman Fleet, it’s a powerful and simple diagram to help understand how the mind works, the functions of the conscious and subconscious mind and how they are related. The image has been around for a long time, and continues to evolve as science makes new discoveries. It was first introduced to me fifteen years ago by the great thinker himself Bob Proctor. It clearly shows how our thinking is linked to our results.
I love what I do because it helps people like you to understand at a deeper level how you can affect the results in your life once you understand how thoughts, feelings and actions determine your results. The most powerful part of this entire process is in understanding that the cause of the things happening in the world around us is a direct reflection of our thoughts and our feelings. This information and an understanding of the universal law of vibration helps to build a high level of self-awareness, self-awareness that leads to greater results in all areas of life. Stop for a moment and think about your relationships, your health, your wealth and your personal happiness. The results that you're getting in your life right now are a reflection of your past thoughts and feelings.
This information has been around for eon's and here I was with a room of 40-50 people ready to refocus and renew their mind. As I spoke I noticed the energy shift in the room as the participants begun to understand this new information and realise they have the ability to change not only themselves but the results in the world around them, it was a wonderful thing to witness. They were beginning to see that they could have a direct impact on the things they were passionate about, the things that brought them to the conference and into my session. There was a newfound air of confidence and awareness in the room.
Change Yourself to Change the World
What I loved about this session (and all of my workshops) was that during the break and at the end of the workshop people took time to thank me for opening their mind to a new way of thinking, they are eager to know how they can continue to impact change within themselves. This really excites me because once you change yourself, you then have the ability to understand others and affect change in other people and the flow on effect can be enormous. Self-awareness is like a pebble that you throw into a big pond causing a ripple of change in the world we live in.
This concept makes perfect sense to me because I've been studying it for over 15 years and I've seen amazing changes in people and their world simply by adopting the simple principles that I teach. So I was rather surprised at the conclusion of this workshop to receive some rather interesting feedback.
You're Teaching Selfishness
While I was talking to the participants, and they were thanking me and asking questions on how they could practice what they had learned in their daily lives I noticed a gentleman waiting patiently to the side of everyone else. I simply thought he was another person waiting to ask questions or perhaps to thank me for the information I had shared. But no, he was not waiting to thank me, this gentleman was genuinely concerned that I was teaching people to be selfish. This concerned me as I thought that perhaps I hadn’t articulated clearly the link between self-awareness and sustainability. We chatted for some time and he kept reiterating his concern that I should not be teaching people to be selfish and to think about what they want for themselves. His concerns were noble, he wanted to know how we could stop being selfish and think about the greater community the environment and sustainability. His feedback got me thinking that perhaps there are more people out there who are unable to make the link between self-awareness and it’s affects on the whole.
I totally understood where he was coming from, you see the thing is I was indeed teaching selfishness. Let me explain. If you and I are not selfish enough to find harmony within ourselves then we have nothing to give anyone else. If you are not paying attention to the way you think, the way you feel, then you will have no basis of knowing which direction to go and how to help others. If you look around you’ll notice that many people are looking at the results they are creating in their life and they either like them or dislike them. What some of us neglect to fully understand is that your thoughts and your feelings are creative energy. If you're thinking about the things that you want or like while at the same time making judgments on the things that you don't want or like you are creating a mixed vibration. A mixed vibration cannot create what you truly desire. Understanding yourself and knowing that your thoughts are creative is the surest way to create a better world for yourself and the community you live in.
Self- Awareness Builds Compassion
The way I look at it is; We need to be a little bit selfish, we need to understand who we are as an individual, we need to understand what it is that we want in this world, because as we understand more about the good that we desire and how we can create it, that little bit of selfishness actually turns to selflessness. Because as you understand who you are you will know that at your deepest level we are all connected through love, kindness and compassion.
Any level of unity and community takes place as a bottom-up phenomenon. And for this to happen individuals must understand their unique potential and power. When we’re all aligned with the same thinking and linked in to a collective consciousness great things can happen, we stop looking to the past, we let go of blame, we move out of victim-hood and open ourselves up to a world of possibility. We then align our actions with a new set of intentions, if every person who attends one of my workshops begins to commit on a daily basis to demonstrating their personal best and overcoming limiting beliefs and selfish states of mind (That are usually driven by stress and lack of awareness), then together we can begin to change the world, but it starts by changing ourselves.
The information and the principles covered in the programs and workshops I deliver help people to become whole human beings. The flow on effect has the potential for everyone to embrace a world of possibility through a new way of thinking. Once you remove outdated beliefs that hold you back, begin to think uplifting thoughts and make more inspired choices, you will begin to be more altruistic in your actions connecting you to something greater than yourself.
So in the beginning you need to be a little bit selfish, to gain self awareness to become selfless. Once you truly know who YOU are you can easily be the change you want to see in the world.
Have you ever experienced a sliding door moment?
You know the type of moment I'm talking about where life could have gone either way, I had one of those moments way back in 2001.
My husband at the time came home one evening in May and said to me “I think we should separate”. Up until that moment I thought I was living the life of my dreams, I had left a promising career to join my husband in creating a business together. It was all going well, we had landed a lucrative government contract, and all of our hard work was about to pay off, or so I thought. You see this statement by my husband was totally left field and unexpected. Our relationship, although challenging at times due to the business, was typical of any six-year marriage so I was surprised to hear that it could soon be over. A defining moment in my life had arrived, I could either fall victim to the circumstances or rise above them and master my life.
That sliding door moment didn't happen immediately, about six weeks after my husbands announcement, my older sister encouraged me to join her at a full weekend personal development seminar called ‘You were Born Rich’. (Rich in potential). Heck I was 29 and I have never read book cover to cover let alone attended anything like this before. Armed with an open mind I went along to hear what Bob Proctor had to say.
I walked into that seminar a victim of circumstances in my personal life and walked out armed with tools and information to allow me to rise up and master my life. That was 14 years ago and I have been continually studying and implementing what I learned that day into my life and I have never looked back, in fact it is this type of information I now teach in corporations.
The time has come for me to share this powerful information with you!
Are you ready to step up and claim the life you desire?
What I learned all those years ago, and am continually building on, will provide you with the information and resources to literally reprogram yourself, that's right, you can reload the operating system for your life and step into better health, stronger relationships, career and business success and financial wealth.
It starts with you!
Nobody else can do this for you, it's time for you to take control of your life.
Join me and an exclusive group of like-minded individuals at this years only LIVE Public Masterclass as you create the blueprint for the life you desire and learn how to load that blueprint deep into the treasury of your mind.
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I look forward to showing you how to master and reload your life
If you have heard me speak at seminar or participated in one of my programs you may have heard me speak about attitude, and how attitude plays a big part in our success in life. One of the attributes of somebody with a great attitude is their ability to see the good in others and in situations. This can be challenging at times when in reality there seems to be no good to be found. One of the universal laws 'The law of polarity' states that everything has a negative and a positive side to it, so therefore, if you have the right attitude you will be able to see the good in everything. By doing this you can create for yourself a much more fulfilling life and you will easily begin to notice opportunities, right under your nose, opportunities that perhaps you had missed in the past.
Find the good in people & situations.
To help you better understand the importance of being able to see the good in things, I’m going to share a story with you from Earl Nightingale's recording of his "Lead the Field" program. Part two of the program is called “Acres of Diamonds”. In this part of the recording he makes reference to a true story of an African farmer who had heard about other farmers making millions by discovering diamond mines. He was so excited about the prospect of making millions by discovering diamonds for himself that he sold his farm and spent the rest of his life wondering the African continent searching, unfortunately unsuccessfully, for these valuable gleaming gems.
Earl goes on to talk about this story and how the farmer eventually wears himself out and ends up throwing himself into a river and drowning from despair. The interesting thing about this story is that back on the farm the farmer who had bought the land was crossing a small stream on the property one day when there was a bright flash of red-blue colors from the streams bottom. He bent down and picked up the sparkling stone, noticing that it was quite a large stone and it was as little bit different to anything he’d seen before and so ended up putting it on his fireplace mantel as an interesting object. Weeks went past and one day a visitor came to his house and picked up the stone, he looked really closely at it. He asked the farmer if he knew what he'd found. When the farmer indicated that he thought it was just a piece of crystal the visitor told him he'd found one of the largest diamonds ever discovered. The farmer had a bit of trouble believing that because the stream where he had found the stone was full of similar stones, probably not as large as the one the visitor was holding but there was a lot of them.
What jewels are going unnoticed in your life?
When you go back to the start of the story, think about the first farmer who had sold his property to go and find diamonds elsewhere he searched the entire African continent. When in fact the land that he had sold turned out to be the most productive diamond mine in the entire African continent. That first farmer had owned acres of diamonds outright and he had sold them for practically nothing in order to look for diamonds elsewhere. He couldn't see the good right under his nose.
Imagine if that first farmer had taken time to study and prepare himself, to learn what diamonds looked like in their rough state, if he had thoroughly explored his own property before looking elsewhere, his wildest dreams would have come true.
Your mind is your richest resource
So I ask you, to now think about the acres of diamonds that you have going unnoticed. The potential that you already have, that you are not noticing. The fact is that you actually do have acres of diamonds deep within you, like many others around you; you may not be trained to see them. All you are seeing is the rough state.
With wisdom and patience you can intelligently and effectively explore the hidden potential within yourself. By doing this you will find the riches that you seek, whether they be better relationships, optimal health, creating a successful business or career, financial increase or intangible things or all of the above.
What you may be seeking externally is likely to be hidden within you. Do you look at others and think you could never be like them, thinking that the pasture is greener somewhere else. It's been said that if the other person’s pasture appears to be greener than yours, it's quite possible that it's getting better care.
Your mind is your richest resource. Everything you do has opportunity lurking within it but if you are not trained to see it and you are not cultivating or caring for your mental faculties, you remain unaware of the deep reservoirs of potential within yourself. You are not tending to your own pastures. Without awareness you will never be able to spot the acres of diamonds right beneath your nose.
If you are happy with things as they are, in all areas of your life, then by all means, keep them that way. But remember there is great fun in finding the diamonds hiding within you.
Start finding your own diamonds in the rough today. Ask yourself:
Are you trained to spot your diamonds?
There are opportunities surrounding you right now in every area of your life and with the right attitude and an understanding of your hidden potential you will be able to find those diamonds and create the life that you truly seek.
I encourage you to take time out to find your diamonds and if you're not sure how to do that I am still taking registrations for the next group program beginning in May (places are limited), where you will be given all the tools you will need to uncover your very own acre of diamonds. Simply email me for more information.
To your ongoing journey of success
Persisting when it counts.
On March 6th this year my wonderful parents celebrated 50 years of marriage.
Can you imagine yourself achieving such a milestone in this day and age? There's a lot to be said about a couple that are able to stick with each other for 50 years. Now I'm no expert on relationships, and I know that my parents marriage and relationship wasn't like the relationships we see in the movies. Theirs is a story of loving each other, highs and lows, creating a family together, supporting each other as they strive for individual dreams, and then in the later years helping each other through health issues.
My parent’s milestone got me thinking about the principles of success and how they easily translate to relationships. Through my studies of success and human potential I have learned that the secret to success in all areas of your life can be replicated across business, relationships, health and also across wealth and prosperity. But let's just focus on relationships and on the one success principle called persistence.
Napoleon Hill in his classic book "Think and Grow Rich" dedicates an entire chapter to persistence. Among other things he mentions about persistence. I think we can learn a lot from this "The majority of people are ready to throw their aims and purposes overboard, and give out at the first sign of opposition or misfortune. A few carry on despite all opposition, until they attain their goal".
When we consider relationships in this day and age and apply the persistence principle, we most definitely can achieve a long-lasting loving relationship. We can aim high in love. What I have noticed though, is the opposite of persistence. I see a lot of people simply give up on their relationship at the first sign of disagreement, opposition, ill health or financial woes or when it just gets too hard. (Please note I am not advocating people stay in abuse or destructive situations)
Then there are those just like my parents who carry on despite all the challenges that relationships are bound to bring. Hill also mentions in his book "Without persistence, you will be defeated, even before you start. With persistence you will win". This was definitely evident in the past three years of my parent’s marriage. When dad ended up in a high care nursing home labeled a quadriplegic and given a few months to live, and mum spent every day going in visiting him taking him in healthy food while maintaining the finances and the household, now that’s loving persistence. I can remember when dad first received his prognosis, and mum said to him, you're not going anywhere we have our 50 years wedding anniversary in a couple of years. So onward and upward they went, persisting, working towards dad being able to walk out of the nursing home, which he did in record time, It took approximately 8 months for him to be back home living with mum.
They had a goal they were aiming towards and they achieved it. However, all this stress eventually took its toll with mum when last year in August, she suffered a heart attack and died for a short period of time, and thanks to a wonderful medical team and mum's persistence she is still with us today, and she gets to celebrate 50 golden years with dad.
So persistence does matter in relationships. Along with many other success principles you can achieve great things in all areas of your life. In his book ‘The Master Key System’, Charles F Haanel has this to say about starting something and seeing it through "When we start something and do not complete it, or make a resolution and do not keep it, we are forming the habit of failure – absolute ignominious failure. If you do not intend to do a thing, do not start.”
Relationships are an integral part to our journey, whether they are friendships, partnerships, marriages or any of the other types of relationships we experience. We build a sacred connection with people, and arm in arm we traverse the landscape of life together, up and down, good times and bad times, learning and growing together onward and upward. The people in our lives most often hold a mirror to us, they reflect back to us our own brilliance, they highlight the areas that we need to develop the most. Without people in our life there really is no growth.
When two people, grow together and build on their level of awareness together, it allows life to deliver so much brilliance. It allows people, whether it be friends, a romantic relationship, family members or even colleagues, to make quantum leaps in their results not only in their relationship but across all areas of their life.
I encourage each of you to take time to learn more about who you are, because in doing so you begin to learn more about the people around you, those who you care about. I encourage you to persist through the challenges, to overcome obstacles and to learn and grow together.
In honor of my parents 50th wedding anniversary I am offering you an exclusive invitation to participate in the brilliant “Thinking Into Results” program in partnership with a friend, colleague or family member at a discounted rate until the end of March 2015.
If you and somebody you care about are ready to take a quantum leap together, and support each other on a journey of accelerated growth then this is the key you’ve been looking for.
Both of you will be given the specific tools and step-by-step strategies to help you replace fear, frustration, anger and anxiety with a success mindset leading to increased confidence, clarity and better relationships in all areas of your lives.
Set yourself up for 50+ years of success!
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To your success!
Do you ever feel like life’s not fair and you can’t go on?
Or perhaps you’ve felt you weren’t good enough, or that everyone else has all the talent…
Have you ever gone through a life changing experience? One where all of a sudden you discovered that you really could go after and achieve the things you really wanted, that life is in fact very fair and you are indeed more than good enough.
Well I had one of those experiences, it was almost 14 years ago in fact, I was just about to turn 30 when I discovered that my fairytale marriage was coming to an end, I felt unloved, unlovable, and broken! I dropped a huge amount of weight due to the stress and spent most of my nights in tears wondering what I was going to do with my life. Up until that point in time I had been playing a supporting role in my husbands life, I was the super efficient housewife, giving up a career to support his business aspirations and even trading my friends for his. My life evolved around him… and now that he was no longer going to be in my life, my identity took a major hit!
I found myself wondering who the heck was I and was I actually anything without him?
It was during this time that a close friend, Jamie, handed me a book to read, it was Neale Donald Walsch’s ‘Conversations With God Book 1’ (CWG). The truth is, I don’t think I had ever read a book up until this point, it just wasn’t something I did. School was over, I had learned all I had to learn (or so I thought) so why would anyone read if they didn't have to? It just didn’t make sense to my uneducated mind. I figured I had nothing to lose, even though the title was a turn off, I began to read the book. I now realise that this book chose me, it really opened my eyes to all the thoughts, beliefs and paradigms that I had been operating under for almost 30 years, beliefs that really didn’t serve me one iota.
The strange thing is that at the same time Jamie handed me this book, My older sister Kirstyn, asked if I would be interested in attending a seminar called ‘Born Rich’ by some Canadian guy Bob Procter. I figured why not. It’s not like I had a heap of social engagements to attend to, and my husbands interests lay elsewhere. So off I trotted to Albert Park for my first ever seminar.
It was at this event, that I got the biggest wake up call of my life, combined with what I was reading in CWG and what I was now hearing, I was getting a double dose of “You are what you think”, “You have deep reservoirs of talent and potential”, “ We are creators of our own destiny” and “All power lies within me!” I was now being shown how to actually apply what I was learning!
What, really, I can create a life that I want, I can play a staring role in my life instead of the supporting role! The student was ready, and the perfect teachers had appeared. I set myself a goal of being able to support myself financially and to recreate myself as confident, successful version of ME! I began to apply the principles I was taught and in under a year, I had moved 2 hours away from all my family and friends, I had secured a wonderful job, and was well on track to living the life I had always dreamed of!
Fast forward 12 years and I found myself teaching the exact principles that changed my life. It still gives me great pleasure to teach the principles because I know that they work, they worked for me. I went from playing a supporting role in somebody elses life to becoming the star of my own life. I changed the way I viewed myself, I set myself inspiring goals, I climb the corporate ladder, traveled the world, created amazing relationships and to top it off I took a leap of faith and started my own business helping people just like you create the life of their dreams.
I know I would never have done any of these things if the information and principles I learned and applied had remained in an unopened book or in an unattended seminar. It really changed my life!
It feels like my journey has come full circle as my partner Durwin and I traveled to Los Angeles last year to attend the first Born Rich seminar by Bob Proctor in over 10 years (he’s now 80) and it was wonderful to be amongst so many people who had used the very same principles to achieve their dreams. I was rubbing shoulders with Oscar Winners, NYT best selling Authors, Entrepreneurs, MLM high achievers, and Bob’s business partner Sandy Gallagher who had used the principles to earn her place as CEO of Bob’s company.
As a certified consultant with Bob's company (Proctor Gallagher Institute), it was a delight to hear of all the success stories and to know that what I apply in my own life and teach to my clients really does work across all areas of life. These really are principles for life!
I love working with my clients as they go through the same 'aha' moments as I did, and I would love nothing more than to be able to share with you the teachings and principles that will help you make a quantum leap in your results and your life. I recently launched a Born Rich Master Class which I invite you to attend, especially if you are looking to achieve amazing results in life. It all starts with you deciding that you want more from life!
To register for the next class which starts on March 17th at 8pm (AEST) simply CLICK HERE, register on or before March 13th to take advantage of early bird pricing.
This program changed my life and is based on the premise that you have rich resources lying dormant within you, waiting to be developed. The development of those resources will enable you to accomplish goals that you presently may have difficulty comprehending. The compensation you will receive from participating in this program and giving it your full attention will astound you. You can begin at week one to apply the various ideas from born rich in your daily life and you will notice your awareness shifting. You will be bumping into opportunity with constant regularity and will wonder how you could have lived so long and not been aware of the things that have always been here. Awareness is the key.
The secret to a fulfilled life lies in your ability to continually raise your own level of awareness.
I look forward to having you participate in the program.
I loved the Masterclass group meetings. I found that I was motivated not just by the call itself but also from the people on the call and the tasks set. I felt that I was in a family of others who not only supported my achievements but also were there for the journey along to the success."
If you are like most people, you would have experienced being in a conversation with with someone, and you get a sense that they aren't really paying attention to you... sometimes it's not obvious it's just a feeling and other times well it's clear they aren't really listening, you will notice their eyes looking around scanning the room, or they are checking their phone for messages and Facebook updates, or they randomly comment on something totally irrelevant to what you were saying... it's frustrating isn't it!
On the flip side, when feel you have been truly heard, how wonderful does it feel? It's like you have a deep connection with the person involved, you feel really satisfied.
One of our biggest challenges with dealing with other people is effective communication. Being able to share your thoughts and wishes effectively is a skill most people have: but you also have to be open to what others have to say. Did you know that the most important aspect of creating relationships with others - whoever that me be - begins with listening.
Like the example above, most people, possibly even you, confuse hearing with listening. This can lead to misunderstandings, arguments and frustration for both parties and if you are the one needing to be heard, you may even feel unimportant.
You can't control other peoples actions or how they listen to you... so lets all start to adopt some great listening techniques for ourselves (You will be amazed at how people will love talking to you when you are a great listener!)
So how do you become a great listener?
It's easier than you think, and it it's paramount to your progress in relationships and when doing business. If you don't learn to be a great listener you will continue to discount other peoples thoughts, they in turn will become emotionally distant (not a great thing in an intimate relationship) and they will no longer want to contribute to conversations or provide you with creative ideas (That hurts in a business situation!)
Here are some important tips!
If you re looking for more ways to improve your effectiveness, contact us for a complimentary discovery session or attend an upcoming workshop or event!
To your ongoing success!
We often hear of people after they have achieved what we deem as success. To many of us though, success is in the journey.
This blog is the first in a series where I will be chatting with individuals who have a vision/a dream that they are aiming for, it's something so big it scares them a little (In a good way).
I have deliberately chosen individuals who haven't yet achieved their goal, but they are well on their way! They will share their lessons and inspire you as you hear how they are working towards their goal. These are ordinary people, from ordinary beginning’s who have uncovered their own greatness and who are now moving towards their goal.
In this blog I chat with Damien Munro, Feng Shui Master... (he has a whole lot of other gifts and talents too!) He has set out to achieve a goal to help others find their own passion and clear the way for their success.
Enjoy the chat.... and if YOU know of anyone who is marching on full stride to achieve their goal, who 's story will inspire others (It could even be YOU), and you want me to chat with them in an upcoming blog... let me know in the comments below or drop me a line.
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